What is the most important mission of the family? The mission of our family is to create a nurturing place of faith, order, truth, love, happiness and relaxation, and to provide opportunity for each individual to become responsibly independent, and effectively interdependent, in order to serve worthy purposes in society. Parenting and work are God-given roles. Balancing parenting and work can be difficult. When work becomes all consuming it affects the family unit. When you become overly busy with a busy workload it impacts your parent-child relationship. Children may not be able to verbalize what they are feeling but if they are seeking more connection from you and you do not get the message, they will seek that attention elsewhere. The following are some tips on picking up the signs that they need you to be more involved with your children…

Understanding a Child’s Request For Time With You

Sometimes children do not outright verbalize a question like “Will You Give Me More Attention?” They will say “look at the picture I drew in school today, or will you toss the ball with me? It is your job to respond. You may not be able to drop everything you are doing at the moment but you must respond. For example say “I would love to but I have to finish this task right now. As soon as I finish we will play ball.” Give them a specific time and follow through with the involvement.

Tips For Dealing With Negative Behavior

Negative attention is often reinforcing for a child who is not getting recognition for positive behaviors. When your children misbehave, it’s easy to point out what they’re doing wrong. But research shows that approach can backfire. Instead, it’s usually more helpful to ignore behavior you don’t want and give lots of positive attention when your child does the right thing. This is because your attention is so powerful that they will do whatever behavior you pay more attention to, even if you’re telling them to stop.

Most Times Sibling Rivalry Is Rooted In Jealousy and Anger

Sibling rivalry is normal. However, it can become a problem, particularly among children who are the same gender and close together in age. Rates of sibling rivalry are lower in families where children feel they are treated equally by their parents. The jealousy and arguments may signal that your child is vying for attention. Never show favoritism, it creates bitterness. Genesis 37 is not about brotherly love, either, but rather about brotherly hate. The theme word “brother” occurs no less than twenty-one times in this chapter, yet this is a story about brothers who cannot get along. Actually, brothers don’t get along well anywhere in Genesis. The theme of brother against brother started with Cain and Abel and continued down through the generations with Isaac and Ishmael, followed by Jacob and Esau. It is a lesson we do not want to reenact in our family dynamics. The story of these rival siblings reminds us of the importance of resolving conflicts in family relationships.

Regression Is Typical in a Normal Childhood

Children usually manifest regressive behavior to communicate their distress. Regressing in thumb sucking, toilet training, social interaction and emotion expression are a few areas to consider. During stressful situations or changes in routines, such as starting a new daycare, a new baby sibling at home, divorce or even a global pandemic, regression can occur. This means children can take a few, or sometimes many, steps back in their learning process. Addressing the underlying unmet need in the child usually corrects the regressive behavior. So just remember ,during those times in their life they may need more attention from their mother and father.

Lack of Attention Can Cause Withdrawal

When parent responses to children are unreliable, inappropriate, or simply absent, it can cause the child to withdraw. If a child attempts to connect with you and is ignored they may give up. In these situations, children often look elsewhere for attention and belonging. The need to belong in human motivation is relevant. Decades of research have demonstrated that parent-child communication and the environment of the family are at the foundation of children’s well-being and healthy development. Parents need to give attention and love so the children know they are a big part of their family.

Tips for Spending Quality Time With Your Child

Start by incorporating frequent but shorter times together, like a conversation in the car or reading a book at bedtime. Telling your child you love them every day is huge. Create a special ritual for you and your child. Something that can be done every day like giving a nose kiss, or nose rub. Something that is just yours and theirs. Turn off technology when you spend time with your child. Try not to text, answer calls, scroll through social media, or watch television. Once you establish those short but affectionate times consider scheduling playtime each day even if it is just 30 minutes, have 15 minute bible time with the whole family, check online because there are many short family devotions available. And think about a family vacation each year even if it is just a few days at a state park.

It’s so important to remember that our children are always watching us, that time is short and that memories are priceless. What deposits have you made today? The Lord gave you these precious gifts so remind yourself that they first belong to the Lord and you are called as stewards of their time and the time is short.

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About Jesus Love Temple

Evangelismania – We are a lively church focused on spreading the Gospel message into the entire world! Evangelismania was a term given to Pastor Shockley by God. It is a theme for our church’s strategy of…

  • Taking every possible opportunity to share the gospel message of Jesus Christ to the lost.
  • Taking every possible opportunity to invite someone to church
  • Living a Christian life that shines the Light of Christ and supports church evangelism
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